Law of Attraction

The law of attraction states that anything you focus on will be attracted to you. Your thoughts, when focused, will manifest the very thing you were dwelling on. If you invite good things in and positive thoughts, those thoughts will shape your perception and the way you act, which will reinforce the idea through results.

I never realized how much of our reality is created in our thoughts.

 

Here’s an example:

A boss gives notes on a project to two employees. The first assumes it is constructive and sees it as a chance to improve on his work. She sets her mind agreeably to the task of re-working the project and the boss is pleased when his comments are responded to. The second sees the notes as critiques, assuming her boss disliked her as an employee. The corrections she makes to the project are self-defensive in nature and the boss does not reply because his notes were not fully addressed.

The difference between the two people is not within what happened to them, but the way they perceived and then acted in response. Responding using a constructive mindset returned a constructive outcome; contrarily a nonconstructive assumption about the work returned a lacking response. In both situations, the thoughts the employees had about the work directly impacted the outcome and reaffirmed their beliefs.

 

In my life, I have been attracting the wrong crowd of beliefs for a while now. My self-deprecating thoughts have strung out into a saga of unhappiness and turned into a belief that my self worth is tied to my image. The outside affirmations fueling the inside beliefs, rather than the other way around. I was not doing the driving, and became very unhappy in the direction my life was driving me.

My thoughts are desperately craving some self-affirmation. Positive thinking towards myself would help me, would remind me that I do believe that I am worth it, that I do think I am smart and thoughtful and good towards others. My mind has been deprived of self-affirmation for so long I couldn’t help but seek it in everything and everyone else.

When I was a child, I had no thoughts about self-image. I was myself and that was great. I believed in the things I did and was not afraid to fail. I need to start returning to that state. Believing in something, especially yourself, is one of the most important journeys to take in our lives. We begin to believe in what we are told rather than what we know, and we are told that we are not good enough or smart enough or pretty enough to have any say. It is a farce. It is a business and a mass manipulation which feeds into the business. I am not an object, and my heart does not follow whatever dam is being built. It flies above it all, knowing and seeing all.

I want to reclaim what is mine. I want to feel like I believe in myself again. Because I do deep down, and that girl has been feathered into a corner slowly over these past 20 years. She’s always been there, though. I just have to open the door and set out to find her.

A list of how to reconnect with yourself:

1. Disconnect from things which are replacements for thoughts. Television, YouTube, etc.

2. Relax into your own thoughts. It takes effort to listen, and you will have a lot to say. Meditate on your thoughts as often as possible. They are special and should be esteemed because they are yours.

3. Become a steward of yourself. You are all that matters, and when you start respecting and loving yourself, you can then start to accept others into your life.

 

Those are my thoughts; I’d love to hear yours. Leave a like if you agree or comment below.

-River

good & evil

“It was all a matter of control. And choice.

Nothing more and nothing less.”

-The Devil and Miss Prym, Paulo Coelho

 

Under every thought, every feeling, and every action, there is good & evil.

good.

The calming parts of me are good. good is taking a deep breath and taking in what is happening around you in this moment, right now. good means letting go of self-imposed scrutiny and stress, the strings we attach on things that are out of our control.

If your actions are led by good then you are free, and at peace. It takes effort to do this.

evil.

The manipulative parts of me are evil. evil fills a resolution with doubt. evil can change the way you see yourself, twisting the image until you are not sure any goodness ever existed at all.

If you allow evil to control your actions then you lock yourself in a cell invisible to others. It is easy to do this.

 

So good is a climb, and evil is a slide. So are good & evil equal? In presence I believe good & evil are always equal. In control, there is a constant teetering.

So which wins? I’d like to say there is a third player here, and that is choice.

 

With addiction it can feel like choice is non-existent, especially when you begin to follow habitual cycles. It may feel like you are trapped and that there is no escape so why even bother?

This is a difficult question to answer. But if you’ve made it this far in this post I think you’re ready for what I’ve found from personal experience.

The fourth player. And that is time.

So you may want to give up. Give in. I encourage you to wait. Sitting with uncomfortable emotions will feel worse than your self-imposed cell. Your cell was familiar, and at first comforting. evil will give you a thousand excuses to walk in, lock the door, and throw away the key.

But with time evil becomes more sour, and good becomes more sweet.

(yes, I just made a reference to Sour Patch Kids).

 

So give it time. As much as you can stand, and notice how even though you feel drained and uncomfortable, there is also a conscious relief. That you used time and choice, and what by now would have tasted quite sour now is sweet in comparison.

So that’s all, really. Just wanted to leave you with a bit of truth. Good luck!

 

Have a good one,

~Sierra